Thank you for writing this! I need to keep reminding myself.
One way to experience queer joy is to cut back on news & social media and read queer books instead. And listen to the podcast History is Gay (though I've listened to every episode) & watch Kaz Rowe's YouTube account.

Last night I realized part of my rage is simply that consuming so much news about American fascist oligarchs like Doucherberg is because it constantly reminds me of their perspective--and perspective that tells us we're subhuman. It’s like associating with narcissists and narcissistic sociopaths from my past. But their bigotrd opinions are bogus, and they have no authority over us.
That can be like a mantra: Fascist bigots have no authority over us. They have no authority over us (or me).