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Perpetual Playground Bullies Project their Immaturity
It’s one of their methods of manipulation and control, in addition to their denial.
I called out a verbally and emotionally abusive family member for projecting one of the many traits he’s projecting onto me, so he projected his immaturity onto me. Pretty sure his narcissism is what he was projecting onto me in the first place. I don’t remember the exact conversation, since it was a texting conversation I impulsively deleted in a furious and triggered moment. But I recall that because I pointed out that he was describing himself, he pretended I was the childish one — as though I replied, “I know you are, but what am I!” No, Mindfucker-Wannabe, you’re the one who’s immature. Being a Perpetual Playground Bully (PPB) is the opposite of mature.
Repeatedly, associating with narcissists, narcissistic sociopaths, and other perpetual playground bullies feels exactly like being back in elementary or junior high school. They act like they’ve memorized the same abuser’s playbook. They’re boring and basic, if you’re an empath who’s been around for half a century. If you’ve known one for years or even decades, they assume you won’t see through the same techniques they’ve been using from the start — as though because they were able to gaslight you when you were a child or young adult, they can still do it and you won’t notice. Whether it’s…